Transcript with an Ex

Bek: Hello...
Ex: Hey Nigga !
Bek: What up Nigga!?
Ex: Whatchu doin?
Bek: Chillin, u?
Ex: Thinkin bout u
Bek: Wow...umm yea...OOOOOkkkay. So what's up?
Ex: am I botherin u?
Bek: naw...... just asking, How's school goin?
Ex: Good...
(LONG SILENCE)
Bek: cool...ummm well
Ex: So what's the deal girl?
Bek: what do you mean?
Ex: U just actin all funny style, It's not like Im cakin on u!
Bek: uhhh... what?
Ex: Im jus sayin we trynna be cool or what?
Bek: WTF are u talking about, How am I not acting cool?
Ex: Don't start yellin nigga!
Bek: Are u tryin to piss me off????
Ex: Hahaha Naw but for real, what u doin?
Bek: I'm trying not to get irritated by this phone conversation. I gotta go..
Ex: Why?
Bek: cuz I do
Ex: thats not very friendly hahahaha
Bek: don't say "friend" like ur holding it aganist me?
Ex: Im not.. Im just sayin U wanted to be friends, but UR not being friendly....
Bek: nigga then dont be my god damn friend!
Ex: Oh so no u dont wanna be friends? WTF is your problem?
Bek: My other line is beeping, Hold on
Ex: U puttin me on hold to answer some othr nigga!?!?!
Bek: wtf are u talking about?
Ex: Who is callin u?
Bek: NIGGA WHO IS CALLIN U!!!
Ex: I see how it is, U cant even answer the question....
Bek: No, I just don't have to
Ex: whatever, handle ur business pimp
Bek: K, bye
Ex: thats fucked up!!! FOR REAL!!
Bek: Got it bye!
Ex: we aint friends nigga bye!
Bek: Cool bye!
Ex: BITCH!!!!


I'mma Chalk this up to a bad day for the homie. Maybe one day u won't be mad at me anymore! :)
Play some Keyshia Cole, thats what I do!

What really is the benefit??

I have yet to see the true benefit of becoming more then friends. Or attempting to become friends if you never started off that way. Situations that would normally be fun turn into awkward glances, racing thoughts, unsaid feelings, and overall discomfort.

Then when you actually try and be friends or friendly, its never taken that way. If feelings aren't returned, kiss the friendship goodbye, if feelings are on both sides but it doesn't work out...kiss the friendship goodbye. And god forbid u go to a club with ur "friend" and someone else approaches them/you. Because at that time comfort and friendship is taken into a whole new level

Don't get me wrong I believe it has been successful sometimes. However it has NEVER worked in my situation, whether I have been friends first with the guy, or never been friends at all. Or we both just realized we aren't right for each other, attempting to be friends or friends with benefits always ends up a bad idea. I seriously try harder in the relationships when they "used to be " a friend, because I want the "friendship" to still be there.

It way less maintenance when its just someone I'm infatuated with. I think they are great 1 month and then the next month its over, and u can break up with the person for some random reason. No more friends with benefits.......in fact, Im gonna have to get friends Im not attracted to..